We should all strive for healthy independence in our lives, because it gives us many different freedoms that collectively can create a successful, fulfilling life. Here are four of those freedoms, and how they can affect your life:
External Forces - Becoming free from external forces allows you to make your own decisions, and be satisfied with the outcome. If you have a healthy self-esteem, you will rely on yourself for decisions and choices. You won’t look externally for validation, and you won’t constantly be hassled with second-guessing yourself. You’ll have an intelligent basis for your choices, and you won’t be swayed by culture, society, religion, or upbringing. You will be free to think for yourself in all situations.
Internal Reactions - When you are free from internal reactions, you aren’t emotionally reactive. You have reasoned reactions to situations rather than emotional knee-jerk reactions. You think about things. You weigh options, benefits, and drawbacks. You educate yourself in order to make good decisions. And you’ll direct your life in such a way that you will experience happiness instead of regret.
The Past - Freedom from the past is one of the biggest freedoms you can experience. So many people live in the past as if they can change it. Nothing past can be changed, ever. The only thing we can do is move forward having learned lessons about what to do and what not to do, what works and what doesn’t. Focusing on past mistakes holds you hostage to those mistakes, even if you want to move forward. You’ll be controlled by the mistakes instead of taking your life in a new, healthy, positive direction. The past needs to be left in the past, the lessons learned internalized and used to make smarter decisions in the future.
Love - The freedom to love unconditionally can help you heal from the inside out. Learn to love unconditionally, and then love those people you might most want to hate. Allow yourself to feel compassion, patience, peace and passion. Learn to let go of drama, negativity, and all the other things that you feel hold you back. Allowing yourself to love unconditionally gives others what they need. Allowing yourself to be loved unconditionally allows you to get what you desire.
Those with a healthy sense of independence can give without feeling used up or taken advantage of. They can respond happily to the needs of others and are a source of amazing positive energy to those who know them.